Bisexual men

[TheAtypicalMale]

I've never quite understood the "curious" part of bi-curious.  Curious means you haven't done it, doesn't it? 

Anyway, I've done it, and I like it.  I've never fallen in love with a guy, but I fall in love with women all the time.  I'm sexually aroused by certain men, for sure, and have a weak spot for sucking cocks.  I have a VERY weak spot for licking pussy, but sometimes only a man will satisfy my urges.

That's exactly it, I've never experienced that and I'd like too. Who knows, I might HATE it! And then again I might throughly enjoy it as you do. And like you, I LOVE spreading a ladies legs and licking her pussy and sucking on her clit!!! So my ultimate fantasy is to be involved in a MMF threesome!

[Rotion1974]

I've never quite understood the "curious" part of bi-curious.  Curious means you haven't done it, doesn't it? 

Anyway, I've done it, and I like it.  I've never fallen in love with a guy, but I fall in love with women all the time.  I'm sexually aroused by certain men, for sure, and have a weak spot for sucking cocks.  I have a VERY weak spot for licking pussy, but sometimes only a man will satisfy my urges.

That's exactly it, I've never experienced that and I'd like too. Who knows, I might HATE it! And then again I might throughly enjoy it as you do. And like you, I LOVE spreading a ladies legs and licking her pussy and sucking on her clit!!! So my ultimate fantasy is to be involved in a MMF threesome!

Yes, I would to describe my feeling in the same way...

[RSWinkie]

Another fantasy of mine.

[jackr]

mmf is great. anal, jacking or sucking another cock is bi for me, but no hugging, kissing, or cuddle a man. i think this is gay. in my opinion 

[naughtee31]

Plenty of men have sex with men but don't self identify as gay.....but in my opinion you are missing out by not having man hugs :-)

[spaderunner]

Nothing wrong with hugging another man, aslong as they don't grab my ass in the mean time

[Rotion1974]

Nothing wrong with hugging another man, aslong as they don't grab my ass in the mean time

Sure!

[VG]

I've never quite understood the "curious" part of bi-curious.  Curious means you haven't done it, doesn't it? 

Anyway, I've done it, and I like it.  I've never fallen in love with a guy, but I fall in love with women all the time.  I'm sexually aroused by certain men, for sure, and have a weak spot for sucking cocks.  I have a VERY weak spot for licking pussy, but sometimes only a man will satisfy my urges.

That's exactly it, I've never experienced that and I'd like too. Who knows, I might HATE it! And then again I might throughly enjoy it as you do. And like you, I LOVE spreading a ladies legs and licking her pussy and sucking on her clit!!! So my ultimate fantasy is to be involved in a MMF threesome!

I agree... I am in that same situation.  I am happily married and straight in RL....never have had an opportunity to have a bi experience, but I do fantasize about it quite a bit....especially the oral part.  So I guess that labels me as "bicurious"....

[headmaster11]

I guess if I had to be labeled I would say I am pansexual.  I like to have sex with whomever excites me tothe point of intimacy and the acts conducted.  I have had several "golf buddies" over the years and did enjoy them all in their own way.  I guess every situation is just different.

[LadyBugPapillon]

Woman I love the way you think.

QUESTION:

Why the heck are you married but you can't tell your wife that you're bi?

Why the heck - How the heck can you live that way?

That's such a self imposed suppressed way to exist.....

[thinspiner]

Okaaaay, against my better judgement, I'm going to insert my two cents into this "discussion".  This isn't the only "masturbation site" I visit, and I've seen one all too common "thread" or "theme" whatever, and I seriously doubt if I can encapsulate my thoughts on all this into a couple (?) of lines, but here goes.
      It's absolutely amazing how often I've read something like, "Well, I'm "straight", but ....... ", or "I'm not "gay", but ...... ", and then they go on and on about getting naked with other guys, jerking off other guys, sharing loads together, sucking and maybe fucking with other guys, but keeping it all "manly", or whatever.  Please, give me a break.  What do these guys think "gay" men do together, sing show tunes and arrange flowers?  No, they do these same things.  Well, the love of show tunes and flower arranging are optional, but a great many "gay" men are as "manly", or more so, as of these other "closet cases".  One major issue is "intimacy", and having the huevos to reveal any type of "emotion" along with that hard on.  How many women have I heard lamenting the fact that their husbands just aren't "romantic" enough, or "emotionally" involved, with them.  At the same time, I've heard other men complaining that their wives didn't care for sex, "anymore".  And, yeah, yeah, I know.  These are generalizations on my part, but it's come up in so many conversations I've had with women and/or men.
   Something else that has always sort of amazed me is how, to so many men, women who enjoy "sex" with other women are so easily identified as "bi", and 99.9% of the time these "bi" women revel in their shared "intimacy", and even (Oh, nooooo!) kiss each other, and this makes them even more attractive and desirable, but there seems to be a whole different set of "rules" where "bi" men are concerned, and what was "hot" and "desirable" between women suddenly becomes gross and unthinkable for men to even think about.  Try looking at the craigslist "personals" for a glaring example of the "differences" between "bi" women and men.
     I'm sure that, by now, guys are lining up to show me the "flaws" in my arguments, and that's okay.  I'm just so tired of people, mainly guys, feeling they have to put up some "mighty manly" image, and then feel all threatened when their cover is blown.  I just wish we could eliminate all these ridiculous and outdated "labels", and begin to redefine the only one that really means anything, and that would be "manhood", which has become so absolutely bizarre and distorted, but that's something to discuss on another day.  Okay, let loose the slings and arrows.  Oh, and I'll save you the trouble of checking out my profile page.  I had to list myself as "Bi".     

[Mani]

Well thinspiner, welcome to the USA, land of the double standard, and home of the confused!

I also read a fair bit on other sites. Books as well.

It seems to me many of the guys that say "I'm straight but ..." are trying to make a distinction between how they feel about their attraction to men, and how they perceive gay men feel about men, and it really has nothing to do with macho posturing, homophobia or being in denial. Here is what I have come to understand from some of the discussions I have read: while they DO experience an erotic or sexual attraction to other men (in particular, to cocks), they do NOT experience any interest in a a romantic relationship with a man, those are feelings they only experience for women. Some of them even say things like, "I'd like to try sucking a man's cock, but I would not want to kiss a man". (Kissing being viewed as a romantic activity while sucking and blowing are sexual acts, right? lol)

Now, I am pretty sure "gay" is not the term that should be applied to that sort of interest, because gay men DO kiss and have romantic feelings for each other. And as I understand it, bisexual men are capable of romantic feelings for both genders. So what do you call it if a man feels their basic sexual orientation is straight because they experience romantic feelings only for women,  but they'd like to experiment with another man in a sexual (non-romantic) manner? There seem to be plenty of guys on the Internet that express this feeling - I do not think it fair-minded or scientifc to dismiss it as being something other than what is expressed. We just don't have the words for the concept.

One attempt that has been made to capture this continuum of sexual orientation is the Kinsey Scale:

http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Kinsey_scale

According to Kinsey: "Males do not represent two discrete populations, heterosexual and homosexual. The world is not to be divided into sheep and goats. It is a fundamental of taxonomy that nature rarely deals with discrete categories... The living world is a continuum in each and every one of its aspects. While emphasizing the continuity of the gradations between exclusively heterosexual and exclusively homosexual histories, it has seemed desirable to develop some sort of classification which could be based on the relative amounts of heterosexual and homosexual experience or response in each history [...] An individual may be assigned a position on this scale, for each period in his life. [...] A seven-point scale comes nearer to showing the many gradations that actually exist."

I think there are at least two problems with the Kinsey scale, and one is the terminology is overtly clinical and non-intuitive. (That is, when presented with a descriptor like "Predominantly heterosexual, but more than incidentally homosexual," most people just say, huh?)

The second is, Kinsey focused strictly on sexual activity, without measuring or trying to quantify emotional aspects. I'd suggest that an X-Y plot of sexual vs. emotional interest and activity would more accurately chart the territory.

Mani

[onlythelonely]

I think you should both shut up, turn off the lights, turn down the Barbara Streisand and kiss me you fools 

[Mani]

Sorry OTL, I only kiss girls! LOL

[naughtee31]

I do alot of work with HIV prevention and one of the most at risk groups is "men who have sex with men". These are not just "gay" men - plenty of men who dont self identify as homosexual engage in sexual acts with other men. Often the taboo-ness or illegality of such activities makes men less likely to therefore engage safely. For example, in countries where lube cannot be sourced makes anal sex more risky for HIV and STI's.

So my point is, in my experience it is evident that all over the world men are getting it on, some happily and openly as gay men, others covertly and most definately not identifying as gay. So boys, enjoy each other- don't worry that wanting to suck a cock etc will "make you gay" (so what if it does!) but do it safely out of respect for yourself and your wife/girlfriend if you so have or your boyfriend if you have more than one male partner.

Xx